Is your kid “too loud” or “too quiet”?

They may have voice moderation differences.

You're not alone if your kid yells at the library and whispers at football games. In this post, we're diving into the world of voice modulation challenges in neurodivergent kids, and exploring strategies to navigate this aspect of their uniqueness.

Unraveling the Mystery of Voice Modulation:

If your neurodivergent child's voice seems to have a mind of its own, you're experiencing a common trait among many neurodivergent individuals. It's not uncommon for them to raise their voice in the most unexpected situations or to almost disappear into the background when they “should be” asserting themselves.

The Clash of Sensitivities:

For parents who are sensitive to sound, the challenge can be even more pronounced. Imagine having a child who prefers yelling over talking in a regular conversation – it can be beyond exasperating. But here's the twist: it's perfectly okay to feel annoyed while still being supportive.

Validating Your Feelings:

As a parent, it's essential to acknowledge your emotions, sans guilt, as you can. Your feelings are valid, and they provide a gateway to open conversations. Instead of bottling up your frustrations, consider addressing them in a positive and affirming manner. Express to your child that their loud voice isn't wrong; it's just that it might be uncomfortable for those who are more sensitive around them. Opening up about others’ experiences can create a bridge for understanding.

The "Hand Dial" Approach:

A creative tool for tackling voice modulation is using your hand as a metaphorical dial (with a smile). Visualize it with your child – turning up the volume for appropriate times and toning it down when needed. Encourage them to be vocally expressive in designated spaces (e.g., “you can yell outside!”) rather than bombard them with another “no.”

Emphasizing Context, Not Correction:

It's crucial to emphasize that the volume of their voice isn't inherently 'wrong'; it's more about finding the right location for it as it relates to conflicting sensory needs. Really, rules around voice volume are quite arbitrary, but others’ sensory needs are important to acknowledge.

By doing this, you shift the focus from correction to context, creating a space where they can express themselves genuinely without judgment.

Educating While Empowering:

As your child becomes more receptive, consider educating them about their unique challenges. Explain that some neurodivergent kids might find it difficult to gauge their voice's loudness. Assure them that this is absolutely okay, and you're there to assist and support them as they learn about themselves.

In conclusion, navigating voice modulation challenges in neurodivergent children requires a delicate balance of empathy, communication, and creative strategies. They’re not broken, and you’re not alone. Take care!

Kerry

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